Understand your own desire. It’s hard to ask for what you want if you don’t know what turns you on. Spend some time exploring your own body and mind – remember the brain is the biggest sex organ – to learn what gives you pleasure.
Most of us, by the time we hit midlife, will have been having sex for decades. We might not have really focused on our sexual selves, though, until things start to change – which can often happen around this time, as perimenopause kicks in.