In a world where wellbeing and self-care have taken centre stage, there’s one aspect that remains somewhat ‘hush hush’ despite its numerous benefits – masturbation. It’s a topic that can sometimes be shrouded in secrecy and met with raised eyebrows and hushed tones.
Let’s come together (no pun intended) and break the silence to explore the profoundly positive impact that masturbation can have on our mental health and overall wellbeing.
Why so taboo?
First, let’s address the elephant in the room – why can talking about masturbation and self-love be considered ‘taboo’? One reason is undoubtedly societal norms and expectations. From a young age, many of us are conditioned to believe that these topics are private, even sinful. This conditioning can make it difficult for us to approach the subject openly, especially if we didn’t grow up in an environment where such conversations were encouraged.
We get it, talking about self-love might feel as awkward as trying to fold a fitted sheet – but trust us, it’s worth unravelling!
If you’ve been quietly curious about self-intimacy for some time, rest assured that you’re not alone. Many of us harbour this curiosity but feel uncomfortable discussing it or exploring it due to societal pressures. However, acknowledging your curiosity is the first step toward embracing self-love and its myriad benefits. It’s also important to remember that open communication about self-love can foster a healthier understanding and attitude towards your own body.
What are the positives of self-love for your health and wellbeing?
Lowering blood pressure: Engaging in self-love can lead to temporary reductions in blood pressure due to the release of endorphins and the relaxation it provides. Lower blood pressure is linked to a reduced risk of heart disease and stroke.
Stress and anxiety reduction: Masturbation is an excellent way to relieve stress and reduce anxiety. The release of endorphins and the calming effect it has on the nervous system can significantly contribute to a sense of calm and relaxation.
Improved body image: Self-love allows you to connect with your body intimately, fostering a healthier relationship with your physical self. This can lead to increased self-confidence and a more positive body image.
Better sleep quality: Aside from promoting better sleep, self-love can also alleviate symptoms of insomnia. The relaxation and stress-reduction effects can lead to a deeper and more restful night’s sleep.
Pain relief: Masturbation can provide natural pain relief by releasing endorphins, which act as the body’s natural painkillers. This can be particularly helpful for managing headache or menstrual cramp discomfort.
Enhanced immune system: Some research suggests that the release of certain immune-boosting chemicals during self-love may help strengthen the immune system, making you more resistant to illnesses.
PMS symptom relief: If you experience premenstrual syndrome (PMS), self-exploration can provide relief from symptoms like mood swings, cramps and bloating. The release of endorphins can improve mood and ease physical discomfort.
Enhanced sexual function: Regular self-love can help maintain sexual function and for guys prevent issues like erectile dysfunction or loss of libido by promoting healthy blood flow to the genital area.
Strengthened pelvic floor muscles: Masturbation can help strengthen pelvic floor muscles, which can improve bladder control and sexual satisfaction.
Finding time alone when in a relationship:
It’s important to recognise that ‘flying solo’ can be beneficial even within the context of a committed relationship. While many of us wonder how to find privacy and time for ourselves when we share our life with a partner, you don’t have to wait until they are away on business or out of the country to do so! Here are some tips:
Open communication: The key to maintaining a healthy relationship while also indulging in self-love is open and honest communication with your partner. Discuss your desires and boundaries to ensure both of you feel comfortable.
Scheduled ‘me’ time: Set aside specific times for self-love that work for both you and your partner. This allows for mutual understanding and respect for each other’s needs.
Create a safe space: Designate a private area where you can enjoy your ‘me time’ without interruptions or the fear of intrusion.
Embracing solo pleasure for the first time?
For those embarking on their first solo adventure into the realm of self-discovery and pleasure, it’s natural to feel a mix of curiosity and apprehension, like setting off on a thrilling expedition into uncharted territory. But remember, there’s no need to be afraid. Self-intimacy is a beautiful and healthy way to connect with your own body, to understand what ignites your desires and to find comfort in your own skin. You might even find the perfect toy for a trusted companion!
Let go of any hesitations, embrace the excitement, and allow your desires to guide you towards a deeper understanding of who you are. Your journey of pleasure is personal, unique and entirely your own – a celebration of self that’s worth cherishing.
